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[00:00:00] Hello, ladies and gentlemen, it's your favorite dictator. I have to apologize to all my
[00:00:10] listeners around the world. I have been extremely busy. So busy, I can't even remember
[00:00:17] the last time I had a podcast episode. But there has been a lot that has been going
[00:00:24] on in the world. And personally, I have some good news if you haven't heard. Two weeks
[00:00:31] ago, I went viral and there's a video I shot not that I shot the video, but you know
[00:00:37] what I mean? I filmed the video and I have gone viral 6.5 million views and it is still
[00:00:46] rising as we speak. So that has been taking a lot of my time because every day I receive
[00:00:53] lots of letters from people from all over the world which I have to attend to. But we
[00:00:59] know for that I do, I have a special guest. You know, one of the things that people who
[00:01:05] listen to my podcast, which is for me, is and I think it's this woke culture that we
[00:01:11] have at the moment, is that I didn't have a woman and I didn't have black women in my
[00:01:18] podcast as a guest. So I have decided to find someone that I have known for so many years
[00:01:26] and she has been busy. We go a long way at one point, she used to call me uncle. You know
[00:01:33] I met Ted you chosen well over 11 years ago because we did a show together called I can't
[00:01:41] even remember not because I suffered from as I must this is but it was a combination
[00:01:47] of poetry and comedy and she will remind me the title. Yeah, laughter of us something like that.
[00:01:55] Laughter verse and the unrecast and on the rehearse you know she sounds so posh. Immune
[00:02:01] Dersu's Nigerian you think she's English look I want to introduce you to Ted you chosen. She
[00:02:08] is a brilliant human being but not only a brilliant human being she is a coach, a business coach.
[00:02:17] No business and career coach let me tell you some of the things that I got my people to go
[00:02:24] on research. I didn't want to ask her I wanted my people to find out information about her
[00:02:31] on the internet and if they haven't got this right they are in trouble. Ted you chosen
[00:02:38] ever felt like you had just existed the perception that your feet are moving but your life is not
[00:02:44] walking hard leaving the office late walking online from home to late but not anymore
[00:02:51] feel free to contact me by clicking the send email button. That was me many many years ago. This
[00:02:58] is Ted you information on the internet leave it from paycheck to paycheck and every month
[00:03:05] done money by the end of every four to five weeks. I have been through the meal. We made redundant
[00:03:12] even before a job started struggle to find work whilst having a large mortgage lived on 24
[00:03:19] feet low for bread. And I came out the other end with a rock solid strategy. I told you she is
[00:03:27] a formidable woman last let's force forward today she is a qualified client orientated career
[00:03:36] business transformation coach who will help you source stop making excuses on block and shift
[00:03:43] paradigms to soar even higher 80% of people in the UK will be broke when they retire. I can help you
[00:03:52] ensure that you quickly secure your place in the top 20% want to know how I can help you
[00:03:59] auditiously climb out of your comfort zone and overcome the fear of change rejection
[00:04:05] until tomorrow as well as my expertise in several industries my coaching qualifications
[00:04:11] and experience I have a passion to to hope which is help other people evolve or please others by
[00:04:18] helping them see their greatest potential as a month ticket so is his provile 23.7 so I was
[00:04:25] tied by walking with your mindset and the stories you tend to tell yourself we all do it
[00:04:31] she is a brilliant business coach and we will find out how brilliant she is because it's the first time
[00:04:39] I am having a coach come onto my podcast so it's possible that she would want to use her techniques
[00:04:46] to guide me to be a better dictator. I am so happy generally happy to have you here looking
[00:04:56] beautiful as ever smiling how have you been because I haven't seen you for well over a year and
[00:05:03] people use the pandemic we've got to be very busy we never even saw each other even before the
[00:05:08] pandemic let's walk you ourselves. Thanks about wonderful introduction your people are good
[00:05:16] I could just about remember writing that and I was like wow wow your people have really researched
[00:05:23] oh my gosh I am amazed wow yeah they are they are getting better there was a time they
[00:05:31] they they missed took someone for another person and I was really someone else's profile it was
[00:05:36] terrible it was really so they have got better yeah I am glad yeah so how it was been happening to you
[00:05:47] I've been busy I've been busy working on a program that is going to come out in the next month
[00:05:54] and it's for entrepreneurs and freelancers so I'm just working on that at the moment I've been doing
[00:05:59] a lot of videoing for it and preparing all the modules for the course that is coming out and I've
[00:06:06] also been commissioned by a traditional publisher to write another book so when you're writing a book
[00:06:13] because somebody's commissioned you it's not like you're writing a book that you self published
[00:06:18] so yeah I've got to stick to like tight deadlines and you know I haven't got all the time in the
[00:06:25] world so but that's really exciting and I'm really glad for that opportunity okay let's start with
[00:06:31] the coaching what made you go into coaching because it wasn't something I thought I thought you
[00:06:38] would be in you know like a theater director or you know you know or you know you know what I mean
[00:06:45] in their arts not coaching not not entrepreneurship what what happened what triggered you because
[00:06:52] okay excuse me I thought you're in a bit yeah um well uh well it's my quest to
[00:07:01] H O P E hope and when I say hope I don't mean sitting at home with your feet up watching Netflix no
[00:07:07] helping other people evolve and that has been my mission for a very long time so when you met me
[00:07:13] I was a spoken word artist and also performer and it's still something that I will go back to but
[00:07:21] I have a burning desire to help people live their best lives now and that is so important
[00:07:29] and how I found out that that was more important than anything else that I was doing at the time
[00:07:35] was the fact that as I was doing my performance work I was also working as an IT consultant
[00:07:43] and being an IT consultant is a very lucrative career but um I found myself working in lots of
[00:07:49] different organisations sometimes six months sometimes more and I got involved in things that I
[00:07:55] didn't need to get involved in I worked in a lot of law firms a lot of financial institutions
[00:07:59] and I got involved a lot in their corporate responsibility work their pro bono work helping
[00:08:07] the homeless did interview workshops for the homeless um going into primary schools helping children
[00:08:13] to read and I wasn't getting paid for any of that but I was getting a big payment as a consultant
[00:08:20] but I was more interested in the other things so that's what made me become a coach
[00:08:25] I did a coach diploma many years before that then spoke to somebody that said oh you need to be good
[00:08:31] at marketing to be a coach and so from that day I decided not to be a coach and so I ended up
[00:08:37] coming back to it ten years later because I discovered that that really was my true calling
[00:08:43] helping people get out of the rut that they're in or helping people to move forward
[00:08:48] so that's why uh why I came into it I think um there was a transformation moment when
[00:08:56] I was helping another coach who's like um she's been coaching for probably 30 years
[00:09:01] and I was like helping her out at her events and there was an exercise that she did
[00:09:07] with the people that signed up for her seminar and I was given out leaflets and
[00:09:12] about to sit down wait for if one to finish and I decided to take that exercise and after doing
[00:09:18] that exercise what it actually opened up for for me is experiences really really like bad experiences
[00:09:26] that I've been through and overcome but because of the place that I was at the time
[00:09:32] I took it for granted so at that time I was earning thousands of pounds a week
[00:09:37] and almost forgot about the two times when I was almost um bankrupt and addicted and the 24
[00:09:44] pence bread so in that exercise while I was writing that came out and then she called out for
[00:09:51] people to talk about the experiences I came out and what I noticed that everybody in the audience
[00:09:56] was taking notes and then she said oh something something would you buy it this woman's blah blah I
[00:10:01] wasn't selling anything I wasn't a coach then and like all these people had their hands up
[00:10:06] and then when it got to the break there was a queue of people waiting to speak to me and tell me
[00:10:10] their life story and I'm like oh my gosh and the impacts that I had on all those people
[00:10:17] is what made me decide to be a coach and let's start getting qualifications again around the coaching
[00:10:26] that is the story wow that is that is such a beautiful story I'm interested in what
[00:10:31] what do you think you did that make them respond that way to you because obviously it's not something
[00:10:38] do you know I don't know because I don't even know exactly what I said all I could see is people
[00:10:45] taking notes and the person that I brought there to like help out this lady as well is
[00:10:49] somebody that I know she was taking notes as well she had a notebook and she had pages of notes
[00:10:54] and I can't even remember what I said I can't remember I think maybe it's just like being authentic
[00:11:00] being honest a lot of people that are trying to help people some of them are not coming from a place
[00:11:07] where you know I'm not perfect I've made a lot of mistakes I've overcome this some of them are
[00:11:12] coming from a place that if you want to be this you're going to do this if you want to be that
[00:11:17] you're going to do that but you don't hear what has happened to them and sometimes people see
[00:11:23] them as gods and gurus not as you know just normal every day people going through normal
[00:11:29] everyday experiences that they did not let bring them down to the bottom so you you reckon it's
[00:11:38] about authenticity and and and yeah and and just being genuine being genuine rather than yeah
[00:11:48] this is really interesting yeah so because people want to know that you've been through
[00:11:54] what they've been through and I think if you've been through it then you actually have felt it
[00:12:03] and I think that that's what brings a lot of people to me so are you a business coach
[00:12:11] life coach or are you combination of both so I think life coach doesn't really define what you
[00:12:20] really do so I would say career business and mindset okay okay talk to me about mindset because
[00:12:29] you hear that a lot the people need to change their mindset and not many people understand that
[00:12:37] and also I do because yeah I've had challenges as well where it takes a while before you you
[00:12:45] understand what you need to do to change your mindset and I you know my view that people just
[00:12:51] in a rut for one reason yet the other and they need they need that they need someone to
[00:12:56] to to show them how to make that leap what is your what is what is mindset because we are
[00:13:04] you know there's big big ground mindset what is mindset is about how you think based on what you
[00:13:13] believe okay how you set your mind is so important now there's lots of different types of mindset
[00:13:20] but there's two main ones a fixed mindset and a growth mindset so somebody with a fixed mindset might
[00:13:29] look at their life and think well nobody in my family has been to university no B&D my family
[00:13:37] has done anything but a shop job so I don't think that I can do that or it could be a young person
[00:13:44] thinking well you know I know somebody that wants to be a doctor but I don't think that I could
[00:13:49] ever be a doctor because I'm not good at this and I'm not good at that and they're not thinking about
[00:13:56] okay I can learn to be this I can learn to be there nothing is set in stone if you want
[00:14:02] something you just need to go through the steps in order to achieve it and don't let your past
[00:14:08] determine your future so a growth mindset is somebody that says okay I've done something I've not
[00:14:17] achieved this I'm gonna take constructive criticism I'm gonna learn and move forward I'm not looking
[00:14:25] at a failure as failure I'm looking at a failure as a lesson I'm looking at a rejection
[00:14:31] as something to make me reflect maybe there might be something that I need to change and then move on
[00:14:37] so a growth mindset is more looking somebody that is positive now a fixed mindset also fulfills
[00:14:46] that you know they're not valid unless external forces forces outside of themselves other people
[00:14:54] think that they're great so you know it could be somebody post something on social media that
[00:15:00] they think is great but they only get one like so they start to think oh well if only one person
[00:15:05] likes it maybe it's not good we don't need validation from other people so is that so you don't
[00:15:15] need validation from other people okay I understand that is there a difference in terms or because
[00:15:26] you and I what we call British Nigerians so we have spent time in Nigeria we've sent time in
[00:15:33] Britain is it easier for you to change it doesn't matter where you are at times of your location
[00:15:40] you can change your mindset it doesn't matter what your environment is like no because you know I
[00:15:48] wouldn't say that one type when we're looking at those two times I wouldn't say one type is British
[00:15:53] one type is Nigerian not at all it's about the individual and how they think there's so many
[00:15:59] people in Nigeria with a growth mindset there's so many people in this country with a fixed mindset
[00:16:05] so it's got nothing to do with your environment it's about how you think and what drives your
[00:16:12] perception okay so for example now in my coaching one of the first things I do with clients is to
[00:16:20] work out you know what they're leaning towards okay so some are leaning more towards a fixed mindset
[00:16:27] some are leaning more towards a growth mindset so I do ask them a few questions that they answer
[00:16:33] and that I can tell and one of the questions that everybody thinks is to do with a growth mindset
[00:16:38] is actually to do with a fixed mindset so one of them is they just give a score of one to 10
[00:16:45] and one of them says I feel great when I can do things that other people can't do so most of
[00:16:54] people naturally will give us a high score to that but that is actually a fixed mindset because we
[00:17:00] should feel great anyway whether we can and we shouldn't be competing with anybody competing
[00:17:06] be competing with whoever we were yesterday not the next person we should draw allies with people
[00:17:12] and people in the same industry with us people you know doing the same thing and
[00:17:17] or allies with them okay I like that question again because what I am trying to establish is that
[00:17:27] it also depends on how you've been brought up isn't it so then your parents instill
[00:17:34] setting values and cultures on you and so you could is it possible to have a mindset a fixed mindset
[00:17:46] for 30 years and then or 40 years and then all of a sudden you see the lighter you you want to
[00:17:53] change and you can have a fixed and growth mindset in lots of different areas of your life I really don't
[00:17:59] think that definitely how you're upbringing can affect that but I don't think the country
[00:18:08] because everyone in the country has different life experience they have parents with different
[00:18:14] life experiences so I don't think anything to do with the country that you're living in per se I think
[00:18:21] it's to do has a lot to do with socialization and what you've been seeing experiencing and feeling
[00:18:27] as you're growing up but you some people might have a fixed mindset when it comes to business okay so
[00:18:35] I was doing a workshop with a number of people and I asked them showed some people on the screen
[00:18:41] and and showed them their careers and said what do they think now a manager could have a fixed mindset
[00:18:48] so he might have staff that are doing really well and he might have staff that are not doing really
[00:18:54] well so now if he's got money to spend on training he's probably going to think well the people
[00:18:59] that are doing well I'm going to train them because I know that they're kind of probably give me
[00:19:04] a return in investment and the people that are not doing well he might say well these people are not
[00:19:09] doing well I might get rid of them soon now that's a fixed mindset because had those people that are
[00:19:14] not doing well had support and training they might be doing well you can't put people in a box
[00:19:20] according to how you're seeing them now you know see their potential so and in that same manager
[00:19:30] at home with his family and friends he could be a totally different person so you can have fixed
[00:19:38] mindset in one area a growth mindset in another but I will say I don't think it has anything to do
[00:19:45] with what country you're in or what country you brought up in I was born and raised over here
[00:19:52] by Nigerian parents raised by Nigerian parents parents who always instilled in me try your best
[00:19:59] if at first you don't succeed try try try again um and they instilled a from that
[00:20:07] that gave me a fixed mindset I always went through life thinking I'm the best and there's
[00:20:14] nothing that I can't do and that's because of my parents I'm going to give you an example
[00:20:24] which I know people a lot of people struggle and if I think you've mentioned it from what my people
[00:20:29] have said that transformation from walking 95 to wanting to run your own business
[00:20:36] talk me through how you change your mindset to be honest yeah it's not easy because the automatic
[00:20:43] thing that you think at first is I am secure in my place of employment why would if you know
[00:20:50] you've heard that terminology if it's not broken don't fix it because some people are in a job
[00:20:56] they're securing that job they're very happy but then some people feel unfulfilled so they want to
[00:21:02] venture out and do something that buy themselves which is perfectly fine some people just want to
[00:21:07] do a side hustle some people actually want to go and own their own business so what most people do
[00:21:13] is start their business part time while they're working full time eventually start growing their
[00:21:19] business to it gets to a point where their business is giving them more money than their employment
[00:21:26] so they transition that way some people they start their business they're still employed and they're
[00:21:32] worried about what's going to happen if they jump ship and so because they're worried about that
[00:21:39] and sometimes we make things happen by our thoughts so they're not thinking positive thoughts you
[00:21:45] need to think positively and if something is not happening then there's a reason now I've made
[00:21:51] a mistake many times in business so I've been in business from the age of 18 doing little bits
[00:21:57] of different things buying clothes and reselling them all sorts of things so now one mistake that
[00:22:03] I made in business is just I don't know just thinking things will magically happen clients will just fall
[00:22:09] from the air and then I wasn't putting anything into that business financially I wasn't putting
[00:22:16] in any hard work but I was disgruntled that things weren't happening so that's the mistake
[00:22:21] that I made a very long time ago and often people do that now sometimes people are scared to advertise
[00:22:28] because they think okay what if I spend all this money on advertising and it doesn't work what if
[00:22:33] what if what if what if what if it does so that you need a marketing strategy and advertising strategy
[00:22:41] you need to be looking okay what is actually bringing me business what isn't bringing me
[00:22:47] business what is working what is not working okay Facebook advertising seems to be better than
[00:22:53] LinkedIn or me listing my services on board seem to be coming through so you need to be tracking
[00:23:01] and analysing but you also need to just go for it if you really want to do it go for it put
[00:23:09] everything into it nothing ventured nothing gained and you just it's not easy you've just got to keep
[00:23:17] trying but don't be afraid a lot of people are afraid to jump and I think if you don't try
[00:23:26] you will never know whether you would have succeeded or not is better to have tried
[00:23:31] and have failed which is not really failure it's a lesson to have not tried at all I think the
[00:23:37] biggest risk that you can make is standing still and doing nothing why do you think people are afraid
[00:23:46] I hear a lot about fear the what you call the fear factor what makes people afraid different
[00:23:54] people are afraid of different things like in my book I talk about a lot of things that stop
[00:23:59] people from doing what they're doing sometimes they're afraid of failure they're thinking well if
[00:24:03] I'm fail I'm going to make embarrass myself everybody's going to know I'm just going to look
[00:24:08] foolish sometimes they're afraid of success they think that if they're successful the same
[00:24:13] friends and colleagues and peers that love them before is going to be jealous of them and not
[00:24:18] like them anymore or they think that well when I'm successful now I'm living up to a different
[00:24:24] a rote a different tape is going to be used to measure me and I might fail because I've become
[00:24:32] successful and now my heart is expected of me and I think people are afraid of being not having
[00:24:41] enough money and they feel that you know whatever job they're doing is their security blanket and
[00:24:47] I personally feel that it's not a security blanket if it's keeping you in a prison if it's
[00:24:52] keeping you stark if it's not allowing you to express yourself to your full capability if it's
[00:24:59] not allowing you if it's not if it's not giving you the food and the fuel that you need in your life
[00:25:06] then you need to rethink that situation and the pandemic has shown us that no job is secure
[00:25:15] look at those people that were furloughed and let go so now people are realizing your job is not
[00:25:21] your source there's things about the job you can learn about the job and then go and start your
[00:25:26] own business and you know do better but your job is not your source and there's no such thing as
[00:25:31] job security and they never has been but people thought that they're yeah that's interesting um
[00:25:40] yeah so we've we've tackled the mindset and I hope that my listeners wherever you are in the
[00:25:46] world you've learned about growth mindset and fixed mindset and what you need to do to change
[00:25:52] your mindset um I certainly want to change my mindset after being a fictional leader of a country for
[00:26:01] so long I generally want to become leader of of a real country but you know that is something
[00:26:07] I didn't realize it was fictional sorry let's move on let's move on let's move on
[00:26:15] let's talk about let's talk about books because I know you're reading how many books have
[00:26:23] you written right now well I've written one book and I'm um writing to do at the moment okay tell
[00:26:31] me about the first book that you've written and the first book is called How to Get Paid More Than Your
[00:26:37] BOSTS seven strategic steps to secure that dream job is that simple is that simple yes and it's
[00:26:49] more than just a book about finding a job it's much more than that so it deals with mindset it deals
[00:26:54] with blockers and how to unlock them it deals with the stories that we tell them ourselves I can't do
[00:26:59] this because of this I'm too fat I'm too thin I'm too old I'm too young um all these sorts of things
[00:27:06] that deals with how how to deal with that and eradicate deals with the big M which is money people
[00:27:12] think that money is um the problem but money is not the problem so people say oh I can't do this
[00:27:20] because I don't have enough money and when they do have enough money they still don't do it I'm
[00:27:24] evicting myself yeah so um it deals with money mindset it deals with looking at achieving whatever you
[00:27:34] want to achieve and not looking at money as such a big deal because it's not um it's just one resource
[00:27:42] out of many that we would need for different things and if we if we don't know where we need to go
[00:27:48] somewhere we don't have the address we just get the address and go we don't sit there for five years
[00:27:53] saying I don't have the address I don't have the address yeah so that's that's my attitude to money
[00:27:59] I would challenge you that money is important it isn't important but it's not
[00:28:03] it's important to think but okay give me give me an example you need money you need money to run a
[00:28:11] business so if you don't have the money do you not run the business or do you go and find that money
[00:28:16] tell me you can find the money or do you find the money there's money out there
[00:28:22] you there's grants there's loans but forget about loans okay let's look at the grants that are
[00:28:28] available in the book I mentioned websites that you can go and get these grants there is a grant
[00:28:35] for everything that you can imagine that you want to do if you want to say blind dogs in Madagascar
[00:28:40] there's a grant somewhere for that so one of the places is funding finder so go to fundingfinder.co.uk
[00:28:48] and just get your money that you need for your next project go get it now it's waiting for you
[00:28:53] funding finder and you can you can use that funding finder for anything
[00:29:00] you can use it there's funding for everything so after you've gone on there come back and tell me
[00:29:05] why you can't start your business that is interesting so what I am picking up from you is that
[00:29:14] part of what you need to do another for you to make that leap from 95 to
[00:29:21] or in terms of your book how to get paid more and it's really about you being self-employed and running
[00:29:26] your own business is you also have to have that's one of the ways because like the one of the
[00:29:33] reasons why even though my editor said I should change the title and not make it have to get paid
[00:29:39] more than your boss because she felt that that wasn't possible and I said well it's been possible
[00:29:43] for me many times so in 1990 was it 1999 no I can't remember but anyway probably 99 or 2000
[00:29:55] so I was walking down the street and I got headhunted so in two weeks I got paid more than my
[00:30:01] boss and my boss's boss so I got headhunted tripled my salary was on a free what it was on a
[00:30:07] six-figure income okay so I got paid more than my boss and other people can get paid more than
[00:30:13] their boss in various ways so one of the ways is being a consultant that's just one of many ways
[00:30:20] but the point I wanted to make was that being a self-added couple not everybody knows about this
[00:30:26] finding fund funder dot com that's what I need to buy the ball yes yes so you also need to acquire
[00:30:33] knowledge don't you you need to you more naturally yeah yeah yeah that's a point yeah so it's like
[00:30:42] it's a transition so you don't need to do it in one big jump you can take baby steps so you find out
[00:30:49] what you need and how much experience you need to be a consultant in whatever filled you are
[00:30:54] in for me it was IT somebody might be in a different field so find out what you need to be a consultant
[00:31:00] as a consultant you will be earning much more I had a friend that was working for TFL
[00:31:10] as a what did he do now I can't remember I think it was something to do with logistics infrastructure
[00:31:18] anyway he was working for TFL and on a just an average salary and he saw people in there
[00:31:25] that came in as a consultant and he knew that they were on more than four times his salary so you said
[00:31:31] to somebody so what are they doing you know they're doing the same thing as me how comes
[00:31:35] they're on so much money they said oh they're consultants and at the time he didn't know what a
[00:31:39] consultant was so he would take a few years now he left and he became a consultant for another
[00:31:46] company and works his way up up up up up work for different times then he came back to TFL
[00:31:52] to the same job that he was doing as a consultant his colleagues after I think it was 10 or 15
[00:32:00] years I'm not sure his colleagues were still there on you know that same salary or maybe a thousand more
[00:32:07] and he's like as a consultant in a place where he worked which is awesome so tell me if he wasn't
[00:32:13] earning more than he's boss but it's it's a metaphor and it's also a reality
[00:32:18] it's really really interesting it's possible it's possible and it's about trying to achieve more
[00:32:28] now I don't think that money is the most important thing in life because I think that what is
[00:32:34] more important than how much you make is how you make people feel okay so I don't want to be
[00:32:42] misconstrued I'm not all about money and I'm all about people and helping people but it's important
[00:32:49] we need money in order to survive survive money is not we need money so but if you want to make
[00:32:57] more money there's ways that you can make money and it's up to you what you do with your money so for
[00:33:01] me making more money has allowed me to be even more generous it's allowed me to give to whatever
[00:33:09] he causes it's allowed me to help out in baton Rouge where they've experienced floods and
[00:33:16] lots of other things and it's allowed me to give somebody a large sum of money to rebuild their house
[00:33:22] which was they only had the shell left and I you know I wouldn't have been able to do that if
[00:33:28] I wasn't making more money it's allowed me to give to whether it causes and charities I'm a trustee
[00:33:33] of a charity that builds schools in Rwanda or orphans and I give as well as being a trustee I also
[00:33:43] give to that charity and yeah we need money and but we also need to appreciate the people around us
[00:33:52] and realise that money is not a big deal as we think it is when it comes to letting it stop us
[00:33:59] from doing something so there's OPMs that when I mentioned grants loans as part of OPM other
[00:34:05] people's money using that to do what we need to do. Talk to me about other bits of the books
[00:34:11] so we've established a bit about money. I'm going to let you know who this book is for. So from
[00:34:16] the title you might think it's just for workers so I'm just going to let you know who the book is for
[00:34:21] and at the front of the book there's a poem called Who Is This Book For? So this book was carefully
[00:34:28] written and crafted for you and the person looking over the reader's shoulder you too so you can
[00:34:35] discover your real self hiding behind your current situation quietly putting up with the workplace
[00:34:42] bureaucracy, trials and tribulations and gain the type of confidence that will set you apart
[00:34:49] and stand you in good stead if you are ready to start achieving even your most exceptional
[00:34:56] extraordinary and ambitious goals so your present may be a thing of the past flee from those
[00:35:05] mundane roles. A book for those who want to scream but are too afraid to shout,
[00:35:11] who want incredibly more than what life has currently dished out, willing to take the necessary
[00:35:17] steps to make dreams reality no longer wanting to stay stagnant seeking a new normality.
[00:35:27] This book is for you if you're trapped in a dead end job. If Monday mornings make you
[00:35:34] pull a sickie to avoid sitting next to Bob, if every day is unscrupulous as you're constantly
[00:35:43] undermined do nothing stay where you are or rise from the grueling grind for you if you're a
[00:35:54] highly paid expert seeking to diversify for you if you're near the top but every promotion
[00:36:02] passes you by for you if you're an entrepreneur seeking additional income without strife
[00:36:10] this book is for those who are tired of being a mere pawn on the chessboard of life.
[00:36:21] Well that is really powerful and it's really powerful on many fronts because not only do I
[00:36:28] identify with what you're saying, I know you cause you do poetry so I can see the artistic side of
[00:36:37] you. I mean well so I never know I don't know whether you still do poetry but that is
[00:36:43] well I don't know whether when you launched the book whether you were able to do that
[00:36:47] well that was just really powerful. Thank you very much thank you. So yeah so part one of the book
[00:36:54] deals with money mindset mindset things that are blocking you part two deals with actually finding
[00:37:00] that job and it gives away some secrets some secrets of my success. It's put in the book
[00:37:07] and it's worked so I did a group workshop based around that book for how long was that?
[00:37:14] I think it was yeah six weeks and in six weeks all of the people that were looking for jobs got jobs
[00:37:22] so there's secrets in that part two and there's places where I tell people to look
[00:37:28] where you wouldn't think and people tried that and it worked and then part three is about beyond
[00:37:35] the job how to make more money outside of the job and I give you 50, 50 ways that you can make
[00:37:44] money without a job and also how to start to execute and that's part three of the book.
[00:37:53] Wow how much is your book? My book is a mere 1499 it's on Amazon so just search for
[00:38:02] Tedu chosen on Amazon or search for how to get paid more than your boss or the dictator will put
[00:38:10] the link in the I don't know whether it's chat or whatever you call it on YouTube but I think
[00:38:16] it's still called a chat. Yeah we'll put it we'll put it as part of the description you have to
[00:38:23] you have to change your mindset about YouTube you have to change your mindset. Yes I can do and I'm
[00:38:29] going to start from today. Yeah yeah yeah look it's been really interesting talking to you
[00:38:36] I can't remember the love of a dictator but look I'm really proud of your achievements honestly because
[00:38:42] you know what you actually write about pandemic because a lot of people faced a lot of challenges
[00:38:50] from losing their jobs, losing their loved ones to a changing lifestyle and human beings are so
[00:38:58] high on themselves you know I was talking to someone a few days ago who always kept comparing himself
[00:39:05] to how others were doing and that was really getting him down so I said to him where were you 10
[00:39:12] years ago and where are you down? Surely you should be competing with yourself or your comparing
[00:39:17] yourself and then he said oh wow actually I have made a lot of progress over the last 10 years
[00:39:24] just looking at myself and with my life phase rather than looking at myself with someone else
[00:39:29] that because we all have different parts so I think I didn't know that that was just something
[00:39:36] that came popped off from my head you know as a world just trying to inspire him to look at
[00:39:41] where he's now and where he was 10 years ago but you have confirmed it as a as a professional coach
[00:39:48] which is which is really really great. Yeah you should just convey yourself of yourself and well
[00:39:53] down for you helping that person. Yeah yeah yeah well this is the thing because I have just recently
[00:40:00] discovered a place called Clubhouse you know because my people say oh president you need to be
[00:40:06] on Clubhouse because there are no world leaders in Clubhouse and it's been fascinating
[00:40:13] to be on Clubhouse because obviously as you know we said another social media platform but
[00:40:19] really more about helping and evolving people and I have met more people
[00:40:25] in there they're not they're not professional coaches but they give you advice as you know
[00:40:31] they just give you advice of anything you require. It's a lovely environment. Yeah so what I don't
[00:40:36] seem to understand is why is that happening in the social media platform but not necessarily
[00:40:43] hacked in outside the social in the real world. Okay let me explain it's not that it doesn't happen
[00:40:51] in the real world because if we don't see something it doesn't mean it doesn't happen. For example
[00:40:56] if a tree falls and nobody's around so here it has the tree fallen yes it has so it does happen but
[00:41:04] we don't really see it happen so sometimes it happens in small networks okay like let's say
[00:41:12] let me go I just go to a lot of property networking events and it was some you know mixing with
[00:41:19] as somebody just starting out mixing with people that were millionaires property millionaires
[00:41:24] and everybody was so helpful with advice there's one particular millionaire that I could call
[00:41:30] today with any question or problem and he'll be there to help me. So it does happen outside of
[00:41:37] clubhouse and it has been happening for many years but what has happened recently is people have
[00:41:47] I don't know. I think sometimes people when they reach a certain level they don't want to come
[00:41:53] down from that level so they don't want to be too open or too free with information especially if
[00:41:59] they feel that somebody is not on their level and I feel that we are all born human. Yeah I don't
[00:42:07] think that anyone should really think that they're above other people and I think with clubhouse
[00:42:14] it's not the first type of social media that deals with voice it's probably maybe the fiff or the
[00:42:20] sixth so I've been on at others now what I've noticed is because you don't see the people and you're
[00:42:28] just speaking and you're just listening people feel freer they feel more open so whereas maybe if
[00:42:38] there were face to face and there were people face to face they might have felt a bit vulnerable saying
[00:42:44] hey my business is failing I need help or hey you know what I have just qualified as a coach
[00:42:50] and I don't know what to do when I get my first client I'm so scared so because they're not
[00:42:56] seeing people face to face and they think you know what if it doesn't matter because these
[00:43:02] people don't know me some people film and I can really understand that some people feel more comfortable
[00:43:08] telling their problems or issues to strangers and then those strangers feel comfortable you know
[00:43:18] just giving out information and I think the the voice social media is very different from your
[00:43:27] Facebook and your Twitter and your link in so definitely I think a lot of people see Twitter as
[00:43:36] a place where people pretend to be somebody else and I'm not saying that it doesn't happen on
[00:43:42] clubhouse it probably doesn't happen as much as it does on other social media but I find on the clubhouse
[00:43:47] people are more open and more open to being vulnerable and I think that is the difference but I
[00:43:54] think it definitely does and I've experienced it happening outside on many occasions but I think
[00:44:00] clubhouse has so much potential and there's lots of others where people speak a lot about mental
[00:44:11] health which I think is really important and I think what these platforms do that allow that
[00:44:17] work with voice it allows you know somebody could live by themselves and because of the pandemic
[00:44:22] during lockdown they're just isolated and it gives them opportunity to speak to people and make new
[00:44:28] friends and also get advice on business so when I was one of the earlier doctors of clubhouse
[00:44:36] as an iPhone user so I got advice on business I needed to have some questions with regard
[00:44:43] to trademarking things that I was coming out with I saw books on clubhouse as well I practice
[00:44:50] pitching up and it was just you know lots of things so I got a lot of value I gave a lot of value
[00:44:57] for a few months I ran a room based around the title of my book how to get paid more than your boss
[00:45:03] so people at work and business owners came on ask questions and some people were like a bit worried
[00:45:11] about transitioning to taking their business online when it's always been faced to face but
[00:45:17] some businesses can still you know strive and survive online. Look Ted, it's been really fantastic
[00:45:25] talking to you. Look I am genuinely very happy for the progress that you have made in your life
[00:45:35] you are a different teacher and yeah for the better I'm not saying for the better
[00:45:44] no there was anything wrong with you or just you know what I mean because in terms of
[00:45:48] you know just your the whole advice you're giving about you know making that leap you know
[00:45:55] embracing changing your mindset and you know you and I need to talk after after this.
[00:46:02] Fine. What are the exciting projects coming up in the future?
[00:46:07] Well you know what this exciting but scary I'll tell you this so I'm working on my book
[00:46:13] that's not scary yeah my poetry book and it's poems that I've written over 30 years all coming out
[00:46:20] and I was headhunted by a traditional publisher that asked me to write a book. First of all I've
[00:46:27] just thought they wanted me to write an article and I think they've read my articles they like
[00:46:31] them and then I found it was they actually wanted me to write a book so I've agreed to it
[00:46:40] I've sent them the proposal that they've asked for I've signed the contract and yeah so now
[00:46:46] it's scary because it's not like I'm doing it in my own time I'm doing it in their time
[00:46:51] so I know it's going to be like fine and fantastic but it's a little bit scary because it's something
[00:46:56] that you know I've never done before writing a book for a publisher you know being commissioned
[00:47:03] so that's really exciting you know and it's really exciting that I didn't find them they found me
[00:47:10] and I think that's a lot of them. And that's proof of what I was saying that you know you're doing well
[00:47:17] I'm just disappointed I'm just disappointed that you have said that you were sponsoring
[00:47:26] Rewanda and all these other African countries are you've done nothing nothing for laughter
[00:47:30] Republic I was sent you my paper because my people my people also need we need help in my country
[00:47:38] I know that but you know I've been helping laugh the Republic for years you know that as an advocate
[00:47:45] and yeah so you know that I have put so much into your country you know that don't forget
[00:47:53] don't forget like what like what oh my gosh don't really to go over it now
[00:48:00] you know the British you know the British government have stopped foreign aid to countries like
[00:48:12] Lafayette, and Nambia what kind of uh and the solar they we would we would we would talk
[00:48:19] we would talk through my PA just send a request through my PA let me know your names
[00:48:24] yeah yeah yeah yeah well I will send my PayPal PayPal Struck President upon Joe Rew would cover everything
[00:48:31] but we will we'll talk yeah because I used to cash up on my account I never heard of cash up
[00:48:37] I don't you know all right it's like what's up can you can you can you imagine it take on cash up
[00:48:43] can you mine yeah I can cash up with like what's that but it's sending money it's sending the
[00:48:48] money to the UK and to America so you know if you have like any of your people in the UK or
[00:48:58] America I can send through cash up to them and then they can put it on. So any final thoughts any
[00:49:07] final thoughts before I come yeah by the book yeah yeah the book come with one the book come
[00:49:15] you found on Amazon and it's 4.99 and 1499 1499 yeah 1499 okay yeah this is the book really
[00:49:25] change your life it really can and if you find that it's it's a great investment but you can always
[00:49:32] reach the first free I'm not sure how much they show on Amazon for free but there's a little bit
[00:49:37] on Amazon for free you can also get the book as well and it's a work because well so you know
[00:49:44] lots of things to write in there and I just want to say that you know whatever you want that you feel
[00:49:52] is out of your reach is not really out of your reach okay changing them don't settle for less
[00:50:00] look it's been fantastic as you know I have lots of children I very conscious of the fact
[00:50:07] that today's father's day so I really want to spend I'm going to spend some time with them
[00:50:12] yeah and I'm told your 10 children want to take you out yeah well where where where can they take me
[00:50:19] to that I haven't been to already we're just going to stay in my presidential palace have a few goods
[00:50:25] and everything else you're welcome to come and join us how's your lovely husband by the way
[00:50:31] I give you that day today so we're taking her out we've got a restaurant booked okay please social
[00:50:36] distancing yeah of course naturally naturally look tell you it's been great say hello to your wives
[00:50:45] and your ten kids thank you very much and say hello to your only husband yeah ladies and gents
[00:50:56] and I hope you enjoyed this podcast I found it extremely useful lots of tips about coaching business
[00:51:05] coaching changing your mindset how there are people out there who are prepared to help you and
[00:51:12] involve you and make you grow personally and for me the key thing is don't be stagnant don't be
[00:51:20] afraid seize the opportunity because you only have one life and if if people that you look up to
[00:51:29] can do it because they're no different from us they're just human beings human beings who know
[00:51:35] what they're doing have improved their knowledge and are surrounded by people who are prepared to help
[00:51:41] them and I do believe that every human being deserves success deserves growth personal growth so
[00:51:49] if there's anything in particular that you heard today then please go and find out with such a
[00:51:57] hit it's really really important you can't find Tedious book on amazing I used to call it amazing
[00:52:03] now it is amazing well it's actually amazing and I will post the link on my YouTube account and when
[00:52:11] I publish this audio I will make sure the link is there as well and you can find Tedious Google
[00:52:17] does Google are you will find Tedious and put the links in the chat for you yeah and yeah our website
[00:52:24] our website is Tediouson.co.uk and once again I am very very related and I have to say that I believe
[00:52:32] I also changed my mindset by filming that video a couple of weeks ago I just went viral I saw the
[00:52:38] opportunity there was nothing clear yeah I mean I'm not dead yet I mean I'm not dead yet you know
[00:52:45] I'm a viral star now a viral so you you know viral viral star you know how many presidents a
[00:52:51] viral star apart from Trump's dad date anyway you take care of yourself be good take care see you soon bye